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Do All Cheating Men Leave?

When your husband cheats, it does a real number on your self-esteem. Even worse, it undermines your faith in your husband and the love he has for you. That probably wasn’t his intention when he made the decision to cheat. It’s just another byproduct of the act. But, does his cheating mean he’s actually thinking about leaving? The good news is probably not. In fact, leaving has probably never even crossed his mind.

Here are a few of the reasons why leaving is rarely the end game when men cheat.

If he Wanted to Leave he Would Have Left Before he Cheated

Seriously, if that was his ultimate goal, he doesn’t need to go through the act of cheating and the emotional fallout that comes along as a result. Chances are he never thought he would get caught. Quite often he’s riddled with guilt in the aftermath and has no intention of cheating again. Sometimes it’s a relationship on the side though. Not one he wants instead of his relationship with you, but one that he enjoys in addition to the one he has with you.

It’s his way of having his cake and having another one on the side. The one on the side is nice for brief periods of time, but not one worth risking his family and life at home in order to have full time.

He’s Probably Not Thinking about You at All

Truthfully speaking, if he WAS thinking about you, he probably wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Thinking isn’t high on the priority list when cheating takes place. For men, it goes back to primitive man when populating the planet was the genetic directive. This was back in the day when men had many wives and mortality rates were high for women, infants, and children.

That doesn’t excuse his bad behavior. It’s just trying to give you a little bit of insight into what’s going on in his mind when the cheating takes place (not much of anything). The good news is that he isn’t trying to hurt you, break your heart, or leave you behind.

Despite what you’ve heard about cheating and working things out, it is a difficult thing for most marriages to recover from. Your reaction is just as important as him making a conscious and dedicated to decision to do whatever it takes to restore the broken trust in the relationship. Once you understand that it isn’t about you at all, you can begin to rebuild and redefine your marriage. Only then, can you move forward and hope to save your marriage in the long run — something both of you probably want to do.

How to Make Him Pay Attention to You Now

Getting his attention used to be easy. All you had to do was walk into the room – any room – and you had his undivided attention. Add a little wiggle to his walk, toss your hair over your shoulder, and crook your little finger and he’d come running fast. Lately, the only thing that gets that much love from him is the television remote. You’re starting to feel a little bit left out and worn down.

What if I told you that there is something you can do RIGHT NOW that will get his attention – in a good way?

You can!

It’s easier than you think and you don’t have to walk around the house wearing nothing more than six-inch stilettos to get it.

Flirt with Him

How long has it been since you flirted with your guy? First of all, it WILL get his attention. He’ll be more than a little surprise and quite a bit turned on.

Now the downside is that he may instantly become suspicious. If that’s the case, don’t let it get you down. After all, you haven’t done it in a while.

The problem with relationships, is that no matter how much we love each other, after a while we stop trying quite as hard. We become a little bit complacent. Bringing back the flirting lets him know that you’re willing to try a little harder.

He’ll probably like it a lot more than he’ll ever let on.

Take it a little beyond hair tosses and batted eyelashes though. Let him know how big, strong, and handsome you think he is (of course you’ll want to find ways to say it that don’t leave you sounding like Betty Boop — unless that’s the kind of thing your guy likes).

This is all about him. You want to remind him that he’s the only man for you. Flirting, sends the signal to him that you think he’s still worth trying for – no matter how long you’ve been together.

Touch Him!

Want to kick things up a notch? Touch him. Men express and experience love in a different way than women. It doesn’t have to be sexual touching, though that certainly doesn’t hurt your odds of getting his attention. But, he likes to be touched.

Rub his shoulders. Scratch his back. Hold his hands. Reach out and touch him and see what an instant response that gets from him.

We live in a day and time when attention is easily divided. Bringing a little bit of flirting and a whole lot of touching back into the relationship is the fastest way you have at your disposal to get his attention  – in a very good way.

Signs Your Girlfriend is Getting Ready to Walk Away

Relationships aren’t always easy. Signals get crossed. You take each other for granted. Life sometimes gets in the way. Sometimes this leads to one or both of you being unhappy and unsure of what move to make next. While communicating these feelings would be an excellent start, life doesn’t always work out that way. Sometimes, she just starts making plans to leave. But what are the signs your girl’s got leaving on her mind?

She Stops Making Plans for the Future

At least, she stops making plans for the future with you. She’s stopped sharing them with you. She’s stopped asking what’s on the calendar and trying to talk you into going to family events, planning for vacations, or anything else along those lines. She’s even stopped talking about future living arrangements. That’s a huge red flag that all isn’t right in paradise.

Girls are forever making plans for the future. In fact, women begin planning their wedding days in kindergarten right down to the dress, flowers, cake, and party favors. It’s a big deal. When she stops hinting at wedding bells down the road, it means her mind is moving on. Her body will follow soon.

She’s Suddenly Started Working Longer Hours or Looking for a New Job

Women get worried about their ability to support themselves right about the time they plan to leave a relationship. This is especially true if you’re living together and/or if there are children involved. Financial independence will be extremely important to her as it may determine her ability to support herself and her child or children.

The extra hours at work help her set aside a bit of a nest egg so that she doesn’t walk away from the relationship with nothing. A new job can represent higher income and opportunities for advancement in the future.

She’s Spending Less and Your Joint Savings aren’t Growing

The money is going somewhere. Either she’s socking it away somewhere or she’s spending it on someone (or something else). Unless you have a birthday coming up or Christmas is close, this is typically cause for concern.

The key, in each of these situations, however, is not to panic. She may be thinking about leaving, but she hasn’t left yet. You still have time to turn the tides in your favor. You just need the proper roadmap to follow that all but guarantees your success. Follow the right map and you’ll find your way back into her heart and good graces in no time.

Why Did My Girlfriend Cheat on Me?

why did my girlfriend cheat on me?

why did my girlfriend cheat on me?

The numbers on cheating are quite alarming if you look at modern statistics. The most alarming fact of all, for many men, is that the number of women who cheat almost equals the number of men who cheat. This is the first time that’s happened in the history of humanity. The thing to remember is that the reasons women cheat are often very different from the reasons men cheat. These are a few of the most commonly stated reasons women cheat on their men.

She Needs Something Her Husband/Boyfriend Isn’t Giving Her

We all have needs. It’s human nature. Successful relationships are all about both parties having their needs met. This requires a major level of effective communication about your individual needs, what they are, and how those needs are best met. And that’s a challenge for many couples. A big one.

The other challenge is that she doesn’t always know what that need is until someone comes along and leaves her completely gobsmacked by meeting it. It’s hard to compete with that. However, that doesn’t excuse her cheating either. It just makes her vulnerable to the person who is meeting this need she’s had that’s left her unfulfilled for so long.

He Pays Attention

Women who cheat often feel lonely despite being married. You may not be the greatest conversationalist, but when you stop paying attention to your wife and what she has to say, it leaves her feeling lonely, alone, and isolated.

It makes her the perfect fodder for a man interested in a “string free” relationship with a married women or for a man who really has his eye on the prize your wife really is. All he has to do to make her putty in his hands is pay attention to her, listen to what she has to say, and respond in a positive manner.

She Feels Like She’s Being Taken for Granted at Home

Many women feel unappreciated at home. She feels like her efforts aren’t noticed or appreciated by her family and her husband. She feels like it’s always taken for granted that she’ll be there and that no one really cares that she is.

Then a stranger comes along and shows appreciation, makes her feel like the center of the universe, and really notices the little things. She’s no longer feeling taken for granted. In fact, she’s feeling a wide range of emotions she hasn’t felt in a long time, the most important of which is excitement.

Women are less likely to cheat simply because the opportunity presents itself. More often than not, it isn’t a spur of the moment decisions and it isn’t often casual. That’s why women’s affairs are often more devastating to the state of the marriage than a man’s affair. Actively work to prevent this from happening by paying attention to your wife, noticing the details, showing your appreciation, and dedicating yourself to discovering and meeting her most important needs. You’ll be amazed what a difference these steps make in your marriage and your relationship.

How to Make Her Feel Like the Queen of Your World

Have you ever noticed that even in marriages where the couples seem to have it all — looks, money, the perfect story — things sometimes fall apart? It leaves a lot of mere mortals without the fairy tale budgets and picture perfect smile stand a chance. The truth is, that the regular people of the world stand as much of a chance as those with big budgets to buy their girls a little bit of everything.


Because when it comes down to it, most girls aren’t proverbial material girls no matter how great of a show they put on. They may claim that diamonds are a girl’s best friend. They certainly won’t turn them down when offered. But, what a girl really wants is to feel like the queen of your world and not just an afterthought. These simple steps might not sound like much, but they’ll make a world of different to the girl who is currently queen of your heart.

Sweat the Details

Many men follow the wrong advice when they listen to people telling them not to sweat the small stuff. Life is the small stuff. It’s the small stuff that passes by, ignored and overlooked, while you’re busy looking for the big statement items. Don’t let her get away because you were so busy looking for something monumental to show your love that you overlooked a thousand small ways you could have told her or showed her how you feel.

Kiss her Hellos and Goodbye – No Matter What

Life gets busy sometimes. It’s easy to overlook the details of what’s going on at home when you have a thousand different demands firing your way at the office or you’re worried about how you’re going to make ends meet next month. Whatever your worries may be, you should have no worry greater in your life than greeting your girl hello and leaving her with something to remember you by throughout the day.

The perfect solution?

A kiss.

It costs little and speaks volumes.

Give her a Night Off Each Week

There’s nothing the average busy wife and mother wants more than a night off each week. Come home and take over. Plan the meals. Feed the kids. Bathe the kids. Tuck them in. Draw her a bath and take over kitchen cleanup duties while she relaxes in the tub. It will feel like a little piece of paradise to her and show her just how devoted to her you really are.

Send her Silly Little Love Notes

They may seem silly to you, but these are the things she’ll read a thousand times over the years. She’ll wrap them in ribbons and take them out to look over whenever the road gets a little rough between you. If you continue sending them, she’ll often revisit them to see how things have changed, and how much they’ve stayed the same between the two of you.

You don’t have to spend ridiculous sums of money to show her that she really is the queen of your hearts. More importantly, these small gestures make her feel like she’s the queen of your world too.

Four Great ways to Get Your Girl’s Attention

get a girl's attention

get a girl’s attention

Not too long ago, there was a series of commercials, by a mobile phone provider oddly enough, about mobile phone “really?” moments. The premise of the commercial was that this new phone could get you in, out, and back to real life faster than the other phones on the market. The commercial made a great point however. We humans seem to have a hard time getting each other’s attention these days. Even in loving relationships, getting your girl’s attention can be, difficult. However, these four tips will get you her undivided attention if you go about them the right way.

1) Get Her Away from the Crowd

If there is constantly a group of people or an audience around, it’s difficult to get through the clutter of other opinions, other advice, and other recommendations. Now is a great time to plan a weekend out of town for the two of you so that you can reconnect with one another without an audience hanging on your every word.

2) Plan an Electronic Free Weekend

This includes all electronic devices (mobile phones, tablets, laptops, televisions, video game systems, iPods, the whole shebang) if you want it to be effective. The idea is that you’ll be forced to rely on each other for communication, companionship, and attention. Play games together, talk to each other, and reconnect in a way you haven’t managed in quite a while. You’ll be surprised by what a difference going two days without all the distractions can do for your relationship.

3) Send her Flowers – For No Reason

You better believe this will get her attention. She’s definitely going to want to know what’s going on, what’s happened, and what you’re attempting to apologize for. It will drive her mad with curiosity and have her hanging on your every word until she feels she’s gotten to the bottom of things.

4) Clean the House

After she picks her jaw up off the floor or wakes up from passing out, she’ll be dying to know what’s going on, who’s coming over, and whether or not you’ve become a Stepford husband. If house cleaning is something you just can’t handle or she does such a great job that it never needs extra help, consider completing some other project she’s been asking/nagging you to do for a while now. Just finishing it will be a gift to both of you at this point and will certainly get her attention.

You don’t have to move heaven and earth to make a favorable impression with the girl you love. Little steps can make a big difference in your relationship and ensure that you have her undivided attention now and help you keep it in the future

Simple Truths Every Girl Needs to Know about Her Guy

Girls often have a hard time relating to the guys they love. There is a lot of truth to the 1990’s Mars and Venus book series by Dr. John Gray. Men and women seem to speak and understand different languages from one another.

Girls don’t understand what their guys are really saying and get their feelings hurt quite often when no negativity was implied from the guy at all. Then he’s baffled that she’s suddenly giving him the silent treatment and holding back tears.

Then the you know what hits the fan and it’s flying dishes and fireworks everywhere.

But it doesn’t HAVE to be that way. There are a few simple truths that could very well be relationship savers when girls figure them out about their men.

what every girl should know

what every girl should know

1) He Really Does Think about Nothing

It’s true. And every girl doubts it. You ask him what he’s thinking about. He says nothing. You get upset or hurt that he isn’t sharing with you. You think he’s hiding something from you. The truth is, he really isn’t thinking about a darn thing. If anything you might be jealous that you can’t harness that power yourself to see what it feels like to really think about nothing at all.

2) He Loves You Just the Way You Are

He really does. The only problem is that he never wants you to change. He’d be happiest if you’d stay the way you were the day you met forever. He wants you all flirty, happy, eager to impress, and lovey dovey. He doesn’t want that to end.

3) He Doesn’t Like Change

He doesn’t want you to change, as we’ve already mention, but he also doesn’t want to change himself. That’s why he’s so reluctant to eat healthier, start exercising, or cut out the salt. He really would be happy to have meatloaf every Monday, sit in the same recliner for fifty years, and drive the same truck until the tires fell off. It’s also why he has a not to subtle panic attack (though he’ll deny that until his dying day) whenever you start to make changes.

4) He has Emotional Needs Too

Women often mistake their husbands, boyfriends, etc. for people who lack emotional depth. The thing is, men have deep feelings. They don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves. Those waters run very deep. He may not profess his undying love for you every day, he may never be the Hallmark man of the year, but his love for you and his family is something he feels down deep and he needs reassurance from you, that his love is returned.

Once you understand these simple truths about the guys you love, you may find a new understanding for the dynamics in your relationship. Hopefully, you’ll have a new appreciation for the man you love and what really drives him in life so your relationship can be stronger than ever before.

Zip Zam Zoom – Magical Words to Win Him Back

Getting your boyfriend back isn’t always a walk in the park. You may have been trying for some time, without success, to make it happen. That’s probably what led you here. You’re looking for a quick and easy, perhaps even magical, solution to get him back for good this time around.

getting your boyfriend backWhat is Magic?

For some people magic is something mystical and wonderful that cannot be understood, much less explained. For other people, magic is simply a trick of the eye or some sort of sleight of hand that always has a solution.

Whether your definition of magic includes something enchanting and wonderful or a mystery to solve, getting your boyfriend back doesn’t involve supernatural maneuverings.


A few magic words certainly want help.


This is the little pop of fun, pep, and life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. What kind of zip has your relationship had lately? Were things going along swell and suddenly the bottom fell out?


Have things been slowly switching from sizzle to fizzle in recent months? When was the last time you went on a romantic date together? How long has it been since you weren’t able to keep your hands off each other?

But how do you put the “zip” back in after the fact?

You add the zip into your own life. Spruce up your image a bit. Add a little sparkle to your appearance, add a little boost to your confidence, and become the vibrant, active girl you were when you first met. If the two of you move in remotely similar social circles he will hear about the new you – and it will drive him insane with curiosity.


Get into the best shape of your life. Whether it’s losing weight or adding a little tone, now is the time to get into shape and really take care of yourself. Make sure you’re eating nutritious meals and drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated. These things are important because the one thing you want, more than anything else, if you cross paths with your ex boyfriend is to come across as happy and healthy.

He expects you to do a little bit of pining and it’s going to really make him curious about what’s going on in your life if you’re going around looking better than ever.


Keep going and don’t stop to grieve over him. Commit yourself to living your best life without him in it. It’s not moving on. It’s not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It’s even better. It’s showing him that you don’t NEED him – all the while he’s figuring out that he might actually need you.

Relationships aren’t easy, but neither is breaking up. Give him the chance to see that you’re making it on your own, without him, and he’s very likely to make the first move so you will have no trouble convincing him that the idea to get back together was all his. THAT is the truly magical aspect of getting your boyfriend back – convincing him that he’s the one who wanted to make it happen.

Secret to Making Your Ex Return Your Call

Getting Your Ex to Return Your Call

Are there ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?…

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I am going to answer…”How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”



In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy.

If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

What NOT to Say!

Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works.

and worse…

Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”


“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won’t go on and on…

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are

  1. Curiosity &
  2. Self Interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’


Let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.


Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly…


Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.


If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.


What I am saying is…

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

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Stages of a Relationship

Stages Of A Relationship Understanding Them Makes A Difference

You’re probably not thinking about the different stages of a relationship while you’re with someone. And especially if the relationship is new or restarting after a breakup, it’s not likely on your mind. But if you understand the different stages of a relationship it can help you understand where you are and what’s yet to come.

Of all the stages of a relationship, the first stage is probably the most exciting.  This is the romance stage, the beginning. There’s dating and getting to know each other, and each of you is on your very best behavior because you want to woo the other person.

This stage is often called the honeymoon period, because everything is fresh and new. Everything the other person does probably seems wonderful. You laugh at his jokes, and don’t mind the person’s flaws. In fact, you may even find his flaws endearing. Just like anything new, it can be a great deal of fun and seem adventurous.

stages in a relationshipThe next two stages are the make or break stages that many couples never make it through. They account for things like very short relationships and marriages. The second stage is commonly known as the power struggle stage.

This is when the newness starts to wear off, and usually starts somewhere between six months to a year after the relationships starts. It’s during this time that things start to get serious. Everything isn’t as cute and endearing as it was in the beginning.

Each person in the relationship is trying to get his or her needs met, and they’re starting to notice where the other person falls short in doing that. If you’re in this stage, take a step back. The things you’re finding fault with in the other person are probably flaws that you have also.

If a couple can get through this stage, the relationship has a much better chance of lasting. Unfortunately, many couples try to change each other in the second stage. This leads to break-ups. Honest communication is the key to getting past it. Be understanding, and realize that you have shortcomings, too.

The third of the stages of a relationship is where you realize that you can’t change the other person, and you stop trying. If you came to that realization by talking with your partner and being understanding, then congratulations are in order!

This stage for you will be one of learning to be content with what the other has to offer and learning to take care of yourself. If the power struggle ended badly, then this is the stage where you’re likely to end the relationship.

The next stage is that of commitment. You realized you couldn’t change each other but you still made it work, and you know  .  Now you can move on to a true partnership, which is the last stage.

Many couples bounce from stage 2 to 3 several times before moving on to commitment. By understanding the stages of a relationship, you’re at least aware of what’s happening and why.

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How to Save My Marriage

How To Save My Marriage 2 Secret Techniques

If you’re wondering, “How to save my marriage?” then you only have to look around you to remember the things you did together when you were first married or first dating. Are you still doing those things today? If you’re trying to figure out, “How to save my marriage?” then chances are you’re not.

Marriages get into trouble for a variety of different reasons. There are affairs, lies, boredom, changes people go through that make them more or less appealing to each other, moves, children, jobs . . . . All these things factor into a marriage and help determine whether it’s healthy or whether you’ll end up asking, “How to save my marriage?”

how to save my marriageIf there are have been affairs or serious betrayals and lies, then probably the best thing you can do if you want to save the marriage it to go to counseling. This isn’t one of the secret techniques, but it’s probably the only one that can really help once things like that have gone on.

Through marriage counseling, you may be able to get at the heart of why there was cheating, and find ways to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Counseling may also lead you to the painful decision that you don’t want to remain in such a marriage where you may not be able to trust your spouse again (or yourself, if you’re the one who cheated).

Sometimes marriage counseling is very painful while you’re going, but once the painful things come out it’s like a wound that’s been cleaned out –now it can start to heal.

The secret techniques aren’t really secret either, but they might as well be because few people every try them and instead do the exact opposite.

The first thing you can do when you find yourself asking, “How to save my marriage?” is to simply leave your spouse alone. Enjoy some me time without your partner. It doesn’t have to be for very long. It can be just a few days. Just make sure your partner knows that it isn’t practice for splitting up, you’re just giving him or her a little breathing room.

Sometimes marriages suffer because spouses spend too much time together. If that’s the case in your marriage, some time apart can be a very good thing.

If the problem with the marriage is that you spend too much time apart already, then you can make a difference in your marriage by taking some initiative. Vow right now to make some changes, and go and schedule a weekend getaway for you both. If that’s too expensive, plan an outing for the day. Or plan three hours of dinner and a movie where it’s just the two of you, on a private and surprise date.

You’d be surprised how these two secret techniques, when used at the appropriate times, can feel so good they’ll take you from asking, “How to save my marriage?” to wondering why you hadn’t been doing these things for several years.

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How to Survive an Affair

How To Survive An Affair – Relationships That Last

After an affair, relationships can be hard to mend. The most essential part of any relationship is trust, and if you’ve cheated this bond is broken. The good news is that it is possible for a relationship to come back from cheating. The bad news is that you are going to have to work for it.

The first thing you need to do is swear off affair relationships. This is not a guide on how to cheat on your partner. If you’re going to continue to cheat, then these guidelines will not be of much help to you. If you’re willing to do the work, then these tips will help you repair your relationship.

can marriages survive an affairThe first thing you to need to do is admit your affair. Relationships are built on trust, and you can’t have trust when you’re lying to the other person. Not telling them is lying, a lie of omission. You need to tell them if they don’t know, even though it is going to hurt.

Aside from general honesty, which is always a virtue, there is a practical side to this as well. If they don’t know, they will find out, and it’s better that you take the bullet now rather than add to the pain when they do find out. If you try to keep it a secret, you’re going to torpedo the relationship.

The next thing you need to do is to take the blame. You may feel that your partner did something to drive you to cheat. We also all have natural tendency to rationalize our behavior, to explain ourselves by coming up with an excuse. But the reality is that it is you that cheated, you that the affair. Relationships aren’t built by blaming your partner for your mistakes. Take the blame and move on.

Then you need to apologize. What you’re looking for here is a complete admission and a sincere apology. You need to make sure that they know that you are truly repentant and regret what you did. Don’t try to explain, just let them know how you feel.

Once you’ve done that, you need to give them some space. They are going to react, they are going to be hurt, and you can’t push them into forgiving you any faster than they are going to already. Be there for them, but make sure that you don’t push. They will be ready when they are ready, and if you try to push the issue then you are only going to succeed in pushing them further away.

After an affair, relationships are going to be different. The best thing you can do is to look at it as if you are starting the relationship all over again. You’re going to need to win back their trust, and this is a process that is going to take some time.

Fortunately, there are resources available to you to help you repair the relationship. It may be hard to admit to yourself that you need help, but using one of the systems can be the best relationship move you’ll ever make.

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Define the Relationship

Define The Relationship To Save Your Relationship

If you want to have a healthy relationship, you need to define the relationship. One of the biggest reasons that relationships have problems is because both people in the relationship have different expectations and assumptions about what kind of relationship they’re in.

Frankly, if you think you’re on the road to marriage and happily ever after and your boyfriend or girlfriend thinks that’s what you have is a nice light fling, you are going to have problems. Hurt emotions, broken hearts and generally misery tend to lie in the future for people who fail to define the relationship they’re in.

The problem is that everyone, and I mean everyone, tends to think of everything they do as normal. This is a problem because there is no such thing as normal. Every person is a unique bundle of needs, fears, and desires. The strengths and weaknesses that make us who we are make the need to define the relationship essential.

Whether we realize it or not, we are all using ourselves as the baseline for behavior. This means that on some very essential levels, we assume that other people want what we want, feel what we feel. Most of us are aware that this isn’t the case on a conscious level, but it’s hard to put this into action all the time.

As long as things seem to be going okay, we have a tendency to let this go on more and more. After all, when they seem happy and you seem happy, there’s no reason to examine your assumptions and expectations. Most of us only do that when things have gone wrong in a relationship.

This why the need to define the relationship early on is so great. Because other people are, well, other people. They may be happy in the relationship, but they may be happy for different reasons. If you let this go too far, you may be setting yourself up for resentment and pain.

By taking the time to define the relationship, you are taking the reins in the relationship. You will be able to see where you are and where you are heading. This will allow you to have a healthier, stronger relationship because you will both be pulling in the same direction rather than going off in two different emotional directions until the strain on the relationship is so great that it breaks.

define committed relationshipThe problem with taking action to define the relationship is that it’s not the comfortable path to take. The conversations can be awkward, and there’s always an element of fear that the two of you will have such radically different expectations and goals that the relationship may end.

These are false worries, for the most part. You need to look at the effort to define the relationship as being exercise for your relationship: it may be tough and the time and there’s a small chance that you may get injured, but the truth is that it will almost always make the relationship better and stronger.

If you need help in figuring out what you need to do to define the relationship, there is loads of help available. This is one of the best things you can do to build a strong relationship, and it is well worth the effort.

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Save Your Marriage – Infidelity

Save Your Marriage Infidelity Doesnt Have To Mean The End

Of all the things that can tear apart a marriage, infidelity is one of the biggest reasons. Extramarital affairs are a betrayal of all the things that marriage is supposed to be about. A marriage is supposed to be a union of two lives, two people bonded together for a lifetime, and breaking that bond is one of the most difficult things to over come.

In a marriage, infidelity isn’t just what happens when somebody begins a physical relationship outside of the marriage. Infidelity can also be emotional, when one of the partners in a marriage begins to share their life with someone outside the marriage.

save marriageThis is known as emotional infidelity, and it has become an even more serious problem in the last few decades. One of the reasons for this is because workplaces, one of our prime social engagements in modern times, have become increasingly more mixed.

In addition to that it is even easier to communicate with people on the sly. Email and instant messaging and texting have all made it easier to bond with people that you shouldn’t be bonding with. While this isn’t the cause of emotional infidelity, it is a factor.

At the same time, physical infidelity has also become easier. We spend more time apart than we once did, and it is not at all uncommon to spend the majority of time at work, which gives us a very handy excuse when we make the decision to cheat in our marriage. Infidelity is a choice, make no mistake about that.

But the thing to remember is that all of these things are excuses and opportunities, not reasons. Changing the excuses won’t change the marriage, won’t solve anything. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t overcome cheating in marriage. Infidelity is a big problem, but it is not an insurmountable one.

The very first thing you need to do is to figure out what went wrong in your marriage. Infidelity isn’t something that happens in a vacuum; there is always a reason when things like that happen. Something has broken in your relationship and it needs to be fixed in order to get past the cheating.

You need to make sure that you don’t blame the other person. Yes, they cheated on you. No, it wasn’t your fault. But you need to move past it, because playing the blame game will only delay the kind of emotional healing that needs to take place. You need to, as best you can, put it all behind you.

Once you’ve found out why and began work on it, you need to reestablish the trust in the marriage. Infidelity destroys trust, and it’s going to be difficult to repair what was been broken. You need to work on rebuilding the trust. Don’t expect it to happen right away, and don’t expect it to be easy.

But if you can follow these steps, you can save your marriage. Infidelity is terrible, but every relationship can be repaired. You just need to be willing to find the advice and the help you need to repair your relationship.

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Breakup Advice That Works

Good Relationship Break Up Advice That Really Works

Good relationship break up advice is surprisingly hard to come by. The reason this is surprising is because break ups are something that almost everyone goes through at some point. Now granted, some people do find their sweetheart in elementary school, marry them as teens and then live on happily together well into their old age.

These are not people to get good relationship break up advice from. Not that people whose longest relationship could be measured on a wristwatch are good advisors either. But even aside from these two extremes, the average person is not a good person to get relationship break up advice from.

The reason for this is that most don’t really have a clue why their relationships ended or what to do about it. This isn’t their fault, either. The truth is, most break ups are simply too painful to allow people to get the right kind of perspective they need. The hurt feeling and broken hearts make it too hard to see the lessons that are there to see.

good breakup adviceThe best relationship break up advice is the advice that stops a break up dead in its tracks, or at least helps you get your ex back. Honestly, you don’t need much advice if you don’t want to get them back, unless you’re trying to find advice on how to burn their clothes or what kind of key works best on car paint.

But if you need good relationship break up advice, the kind that gets you back with your ex, then you’re reading the right article. You may not believe that you can get your ex back, but it is possible, even if it isn’t exactly easy. You will need to do some work to get back together, but it can be done.

The first step is to get some distance from the relationship. Basically, you need to get away from your ex’s memory and their presence. This may seem like strange relationship break up advice when you’re trying to get someone back, but it’s a necessary step. You need to be able to stand back from the relationship and look at it without your emotions getting in the way, which is crucial to the next step.

The next step, in this case, being to figure out why the relationship fell apart to begin with. You can’t do this if you’re still broken up over it. This isn’t an invitation to assign blame; you just need to be able to figure out what the problem is so you can work around it.

Once you’ve done both of these, it’s time to start getting back into the relationship. Ask your ex to go to coffee or some other non-threatening kind of activity. Do not talk about your relationship unless they bring it up. What you’re trying to do is rebuild, and you’re going to need to take it slow.

After this, the best relationship break up advice you get is to treat the new relationship with your as a new relationship. You need to treat this as something brand new, not just an extension of the old relationship. If you need more relationship break up advice, there are several excellent resources available on the web, you just need to be willing to take that step to save your relationship.

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After Infidelity

How To Come Back Stronger Than Ever After Infidelity

After infidelity, a relationship is going to be at its weakest point, but it is possible to come back from it. Infidelity is one of the major reasons that relationships fall apart, but the truth is that cheating is almost always a symptom of something bigger. As bad as cheating is, it’s not what you need to focus on to restore your relationship after infidelity.

Cheating is usually a sign that the person doing the cheating is looking for something they’re not getting from the relationship. This isn’t saying that the partner who was cheated on is doing anything wrong, just that there is a major problem in bedrock of the relationship.

If you are going to come back after infidelity, then there are a few tips you need to follow in order to make the process as easy and effective as possible.

surviving infidelityTip One: Take Charge

If you want to repair your relationship after infidelity, then you need to take charge. The cheating might not have been your fault, but the responsibility for fixing things is going to have to fall on you. You can’t make your partner do something, so you can’t just sit back and hope that things will fix themselves.

This will also help you to feel better about the relationship. Being cheated on makes you feel like a victim, and taking charge to repair your relationship will give you back the strength and pride that cheating took away.

Tip Two: Don’t Play the Blame Game

The human thing is to want to blame the cheater and heap all your emotions on to them. While this may help you feel better, it won’t help you rebuild your relationship after infidelity. You need to put away blame and move past it.

This can be difficult, but the best thing you can do is not expect an apology and don’t fish for one. You’ll get one, if the relationship can be saved, but if you spend timing trying to get them to admit how much they hurt you, you won’t be spending the time you need to be spending fixing the relationship.

Tip Three: Find the Reasons Why

Infidelity is a sign that something is broken in your relationship. Even if you manage to get over the cheating and get back together, if you don’t fin d out what caused it, then your relationship is going to fail.

This will take brutal honesty on both of your parts, and it’s important that you try to keep your emotions in check. Your partner’s reasons are going to sound like excuses, but if you keep communicating you will eventually be able to find the truth about what needs to be fixed in your relationship.

Tip Four: Learn to Trust Again

In many ways, this is the toughest thing to do after infidelity. The trust has been broken, and it will be hard to get it back, but you need to be able to trust your partner again. No relationship has ever succeeded based on suspicion and paranoia.

There are many resources available to help you recover after infidelity, and you should make use of them. Repairing your relationship is hard enough, no matter what, so take the extra step and get the help you need to make things good again.

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Relationship Questions You Need To Ask

If you want to fix your relationship, then you need to ask the right question. Relationship repair can be tricky in the best of times, which is why you need to know the right questions, relationship questions, to get the information you need to repair what has been broken.

This is not necessarily an easy thing to do. Most of us won’t want to ask these questions, relationship problems or not. This is because the natural human reaction to things is to try and avoid the problem as much as possible.

relationship getting to know you questionsBut relationship problems will not fix themselves. You need to make the effort to fix them, not wait for your ex to magically come around. You are the one who has realized there is a problem, and this means that you have to be the one to do the work to fix it. Whether you like it or not, it’s become your responsibility.

Which brings us to the questions. Relationship questions are not easy to ask, but the answers will be worthwhile. This is the information you need to do the work that will bring you back to having a healthy relationship with your girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife.

Question One: What Do You Want?

This is a question you need to ask yourself and your significant other. You need to ask yourself because you need to be able to know and articulate what it is you want from your relationship. You need to ask them so that you know that the things you want from the relationship are, if not the same, then at least compatible.

Question Two: What Were Our Best Times?

This is another question designed to get you looking at how the two of you view your relationship. If you both view different times in your relationship as the best times, this will give you a very strong indication of where things went wrong, which is the point of these questions. Relationship is based on knowing what these questions will tell you.

Question Three: What Don’t You Like?

Again, this is a question both of you need to ask. This is an area where it is crucial that you don’t assign blame or allow your emotions to be hurt. You need to take a full inventory of where you stand and knowing what it bothering both of you is essential.

Question Four: Where are we Heading?

The point of this is question is to see where you both think the relationship should and where it will go. Without knowing this, you won’t know how bad the relationship is. If your partner thinks that the relationship is doomed to failure, this is information you need to know.

The point of doing all this is to find the true answers to these questions. Relationship rescue will be much easier when you have this information, because it will give a roadmap of the problems you need to resolve to have a stronger relationship. This is only the beginning, and you should seek out and find the information that will allow you to overcome these problems.

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How to Save Your Relationship After Adultery

After adultery a relationship is the weakest it’s ever likely to be, but this can be a good thing. This sounds like it is hard to believe, but the truth is that the time after adultery is also the time that can make or break a relationship, which can be a huge opportunity.

Nobody likes to be cheated on. Nobody should be cheated on. But cheating isn’t the problem, it’s the symptom. There is always a bigger problem underlying the infidelity and if there’s anything good to come after adultery, it’s knowing that there is a problem that you need to address.

The time when a relationship is at its weakest is also the best time to do the work that will bring it to being its strongest. There’s an idea in the military that you need to tear a person down so that you can build them back up, strong than they ever were before, and this is true in relationships as well.

After adultery what your relationships needs is a complete overhaul. This isn’t optional, because if you try to just go back to the way things were, then what you’ll find is that history will just repeat itself. You need to start over and build things back up from the bottom. Tear it down to bring it back stronger than it was before.
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The first thing you need to do is spend some time apart. This may seem counter intuitive since you’re dealing with an after adultery situation, when the urge might be to not let your partner out of your sight for a single second. But the time apart will allow you to see your relationship from a different angle, and this perspective will be important for the relationship repair process.

The next thing you need to do is to figure out exactly what the problem was, and the answer to this question is not ‘they were sleeping with someone else’. You need to find the deep down problem that was behind the infidelity, and you need to do something about the problem.

After you’ve done those two things, it’s time for you to start the relationship over. The key part is to do it from the beginning. Go on dates again. Start over just as if you were dating somebody else. You need to treat this as a new relationship because if you want to repair your relationship after adultery, then it has to be a new relationship.

Although you’re being building a new relationship after adultery, you do need to keep in mind the problems that made all this necessary. The idea here isn’t to have the same relationship you had before, the idea is to have a better one, and this means you need to avoid making the same mistakes.

Rebuilding a relationship after adultery will be hard, but it will also be one of the most worthwhile things you can. Remember, there is help available out there, and seeking it out one of the best things you can do for your relationship.

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Save a Relationship

7 Steps on How to Save a Relationship

Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for her.  Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the children’s needs and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs?  ways to save a relationship Can this relationship be saved?  Should it be saved?  Here’s how to save a relationship.

First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth saving.  While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work.  Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back in, there is little that can be done.

Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or remain in a marriage because of the children.  But that is not enough.  How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship.  One of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself. 

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups.  In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem.  For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse.  While most people look at the affair as the problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship.  If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from starting through the use of guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.

When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the relationship. 

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts.  This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns.  Hold your partner’s had when you are talking about your problems as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling.  When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you.   Rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them.  Then, take concrete steps on your action plan.  If you don’t spend time together like you used to, plan a date night every week.  Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday.  If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another.  And, then do it.

Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process.  You are going to take two steps forward only to take one step back.  There is going to be both laughter and tears going forward.  Be quick to apologize and slow to blame. 

Is your relationship worth saving?  If so, I’ve described in this article how to save a relationship.

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Keep a Woman Happy

Advice on Relationships How to Keep a Woman Happy

Do you know how to keep a woman happy?  Here is some advice on relationships for men.

advice unrequited loveThe first advice on relationships item I have for you is to always be yourself.  Many men don’t feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on a show.  But a confident man is the sexiest beast around.  Have you ever noticed that some of the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest women?  That is because they display a level of confidence that is more attractive to women than physical looks.

Next, you should do the little things.  This means offering to take her car in for an oil change or giving her a bag of Jelly Bellies (her favorite flavors) from time to time.  Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures,” when it is the little things add up to long relationships.

This ties into the next piece of advice on relationships: appreciate her.  You shouldn’t take her for granted.  Let her know that you value her.

Next up is not obviously looking at other women when you are with her.  Women think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re looking at.  They don’t understand the whole concept of “the day I stop looking is the day I die.”  This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women.  Women are looking for a lifetime partner for a man with whom they can raise children.  They can’t help it.  That’s how evolution designed them.  So minimize the ogling, especially when she’s around.

You should try to make her laugh.  While men list good looks at the top of the things they need in a woman, women list a man’s sense of humor.  So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.

The next bit of advice on relationships comes in seeking common interests.  It’s great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it still helps when you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers.  If this means developing an appreciation for foreign films, so be it.  This shows that you care about her and she’ll know you are one in a million.

Once you get the girl, it may seem like you don’t have to try anymore – at least as far as grooming goes.  And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt.  So, shave on weekends.  Keep in touch with the latest fashion trends for men.  In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her.  You can unland her just as easily.

She’s going to need to know that she can integrate you into her circle of family and friends.  A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over.  So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents.  A woman relies on her social network to validate her relationship choices.  Make an effort.

You should always be considerate of her feelings.  Women are less stable than guys.  Part of this is hormonal.  When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.

The final piece of advice on relationships is to be open to trying new things.  At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss.  But, after a while, these things become routine.  If you find that your relationship has fallen into a rut, shake things up.  Try something new.  It will go a long way to keeping your relationship healthy.

So, there are ten bits of advice on relationships to keep your dating life strong. Look you guys, these things are common sense and the fact is I almost drove my sweetheart out of my life because I didn’t pay attention to what I was doing. There is a book that woke me up written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson called "The Magic Of Making Up". After I read it and began applying his common sense suggestions, our love life turned around. Not only that all of my personal relationships, with friends, co-workers and my family have become much smother than they were before.

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should i save my marriageI hear this cry from so many people, "Please help save my marriage from falling apart." Usually the crier sees their marriage as falling apart with no hope in sight. It’s like they have been on a boat which is sinking slowly and they have no idea how to stop it from sinking, so an SOS cry is their only hope. If you are tired of it and want to stop the boat from sinking you are going to need "help save marriage" advice. You will need to learn three main things, how to sacrifice to save your marriage, how to open up and communicate better and how to simplify your lives to make things easier.

Be honest with yourself when it comes to sacrifice. Don’t be the kind of person who wants help saving your marriage but in truth you are mostly interested in the other partner changing. They may not be the total root of the problem, so make sure you examine yourself also. It may be true that the other person is most of the problem but just make sure you aren’t making things worse by exaggerating.

Many marriages fall apart because one or both of the partners feel they are number one and the world revolves around them. That is not the attitude to have and it may doom the marriage. In a marriage the two of you are to act as one with each probably having to sacrifice something. To keep the marriage alive and going you will have to be willing to make these sacrifices. You can live as one or you can live as two separate lives. The choice is yours. Both you and your partner will have to acknowledge that each must make a sacrifice to live as one.

Marriage is like a pressure cooker many times. How you communicate will either relieve pressure or build it up so much that it explodes. People have a tendency to hold in problems and not communicate them when they are under stress. This is not only unhealthy for you as a person but it is unhealthy for the marriage.

You probably remember the firecrackers that went off in your head the first time you kissed your spouse, but that will pale compared to the Atom bomb that will go off when you let emotions and argumentative thoughts build up until they explode. The longer you hold problems and disagreements in the more pressure builds up. The way to save a marriage is to talk often to get problems resolved quickly. When you open up a little at a time it is like relieving pressure so a big explosion doesn’t occur. That is one of the best ideas we can give you to help save marriage.

It is common for people to make mountains out of mole hills. Making things more complicated than they have to be will make it hard on marriage. We all have a tendency to make big issues out of little things that can better be resolved when we realize they are not big issues. To help save marriage you need to recognize the actual big issues from the truly little issues.

Don’t constantly look at the details of your mate and complicate matters. Think to yourself, "What is it I need in a mate?" Find the root of problems and don’t dwell on the little details. You’ll find when you simplify how you look at things you can handle them better and understand them better. Think about it, "Are you expecting too much?", "Are you overly picky?" Take a step back and look at the whole picture to see if you are over-complicating your marriage. Doing so will help save any marriage. 

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After an Affair

Restoring Trust in Relationships  Getting Your Ex Back After an Affair

How do you get your ex back even after you’ve cheated?  Some people claim that an affair should always end a relationship.  But I disagree.  I believe that free tips on how to stop my divorceevery relationship is savable if both parties really want to work on it.  This article is about restoring trust in relationships.

Restoring trust in relationships requires an adjustment in attitude and actions.  Even after an affair, it is possible to save a relationship.  But that starts with ramping up the level of trust within the couple.

If you have had an affair, you have had an attitude which allowed you to stray.  There may be something at the relationship’s core that is diseased.  But you can heal the disease.

What was it that you were looking for when you strayed?  Was the sex humdrum?  Was she too busy for you?  Was she just not spending enough time on her grooming?

You wouldn’t have had an affair if the primary relationship was perfect.  So, what needs to be done to fix it?  Often that lies in self analysis.  But just as often, that lies in the couple’s relationship.

Restoring trust in relationships means fixing the underlying problems.  Sometimes that means going into couples counseling.

But just understanding our thoughts isn’t enough.  The next step is to take concrete action in fixing the problems.

The secret to restoring trust in relationships lies not in talking about the right things, but in doing the right things. 

One of the biggest things you can do is to make small promises and keep them.  If you promise to take the trash out every evening, do it.  And, do it consistently.  When you demonstrate that you can be trusted in the small things, a gradual sense of confidence will be realized in the larger picture of the relationship.

Your girlfriend or wife is going to need constant reassurance that you have changed.  This means that you are going to need to apologize more than once over time.  You will also need to treat the recurring comments about the violation of trust as a matter of course.  It is not easy for her to forgive the breach.  If you want to stay with her, you will be patient with her.

This does not mean that you must feel guilty about the indiscretion forever.  In fact, if you allow her to constantly guilt trip you, she will not be satisfied in the new relationship you are building.  Just be understanding.

Finally, you need to put a positive spin on the incident.  Treat it as an opportunity for both of you to grow as individuals and for the relationship to mature.  Just as a bone grows stronger at the place it has been broken, a relationship can improve after an affair.

Restoring trust in a relationship takes time.  It requires that you change both your attitudes and actions.  But it is possible to heal the divide and be a stronger couple as a result.

Can My Marriage Be Saved

Can I Save My Marriage – Its Up To You

stop divorce nowIt is depressing to see many marriages that are in turmoil, and it is especially disconcerting to see them end up as messy divorces, so you may ask how can I save my marriage? Filing for divorce is not the solution for when a marriage has hit its pushing limits. There are a number of solutions that require that both partners to be fully committed in saving the relationship that they have. The first step is counseling, which enables the couple to have a mediator in dealing with their issues.

In addition to professional services, there are a number of different things that can be done to save a marriage, it is not a complicated process and does not require much outside of both parties working towards the common goal. Below are four things that you can take to heart and utilize to "save my marriage" and improve the odds of successfully avoiding divorce.

First, know that the perfect marriage is a myth. Whenever two people are brought together, there will be problems, including the few that can grow into deal breakers in your marriage. This is a natural result of bringing two people together. Even perfect twins differ in likes and dislikes. For the marriage to succeed, the couple must learn to deal with the rough patches and overcome their problems. Seeking perfection will only destroy everything. People make mistakes, work with your partner and overcome the problems you face, and you’ll realize it is possible to "save my marriage."

Next, good communication is essential, for when the communication is inadequate; the marriage is fated to face problems. The most fundamental thing is to be truthful with your significant other. Simply about all issue and crisis can be resolved if communication is preserved. The third tip is to acknowledge compromise. Several have made this a talent, with excellent reason. The center ground that will facilitate a finale to the clash has to interconnect with both parties and their happiness before it can "save my marriage." Marriage on a total is about negotiation and knowing that there are times when your other half will take part in to giving and times when you grasp to give in order to "save my marriage."

In reality, a marriage is all about assurance, the fourth tip. Similar to a car, if it crushes down, you do not abandon the car on a segment of the road. The isolated juncture you do get rid of the car is when there is no assurance. Saving your marriage absorbs the identical point of vows and working towards making things work, if you ever have an opening to "save my marriage."

Every so often, the harm to the marriage sums it, and no matter what you do, not anything can change it. Some matters cannot be resolved, counseling cannot help. It is in these cases that separation makes meaning. Out side of these cases, separation is not the answer. As an alternative, you ought to work with your significant other to resolve the issues that curse your marriage, and with any luck you will be capable of saying that you can "save my marriage."

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children and divorceIf you are doing your best and your marriage still doesn’t work, then you should know that you are not the only one in this situation. Even if it’s about reactions, feelings, bad advice or wrong behaviour they all made something that pushed our partners away from us. But, when you discover you were mistaken the chances of fixing your marriage increase.
Do not put pressure on your spouse!

Threatening or arguing with your partner is not a positive thing to do in a marriage, no matter the situation. Another form of pressure, which is often used, is begging. Even if you are not getting down on your knees, as long as you are crying or pleading it is still considered a form of begging. Telling your spouse that separation will ruin your children’s lives is a form of blackmail that leads to emotional pressure.

Pressure can take many forms. For example, if you insist to go at marriage counseling you are definitely putting pressure on your spouse. Therefore, you should know there are many ways to convince your spouse of something without using pressure. How can you do this? Instead of pressure, use logic.

Stop apologizing all the time!

It is essential to apologize for the things you did wrong especially when you plan to avoid them in the future. But, the problem appears when you start apologizing for things you didn’t do. Such an apology first of all sounds insincere, and secondly because you mocking of your spouse. Thirdly, you look desperate and not attractive.

Apologizing all the time does neither improve, nor solve anything. The best solution is to take 50% responsibility of the problem and realize that you have some problems you must deal with in order to save your marriage. In other words, when you say ” I want to save my marriage” assume responsibility for your fair share of the blame.

Avoid quick conclusions!

If you have lived with your spouse for several decades, this does not mean that you can read their mind and know them like a book. Thus, don’t assume you know their feelings, thoughts or reactions. These emotions are buried deep in each person’s mind and might even be influenced by unrelated event in the past that interfere in the present.

Avoid dishonesty!

Most people know that dishonesty leads to nothing but trouble, but few people really do consider this as important. Emotional intimacy is highly influenced by details such as work events, facts, hiding feelings, financial details. Eventually hiding such things will lead to a wedge between you and your spouse. Those events that have an impact on the relationship and are hidden will lead to future arguments. To avoid this, good communication should be a must in your relationship.

Stop waiting and start acting!

Waiting and hoping is probably one of the biggest mistakes ever, even if is so easy to be fixed. Many people just wait and hope things will eventually work out while resentment grows deeper. Marital problems do not work out themselves, but require concrete action from your part.

If you really want to save your marriage you should take into account all these details and respect as much as possible. In this way, your chances will increase and maybe avoid separation. Each couple has to face problems, but if you know how to solve them, you will definitely strengthen your marriage. Using trust, commitment, honesty and love you can accomplish that.

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separation and divorceDivorce is not longer a background issue for people getting married or who are married with the rates of splitting up skyrocketing due to many factors in our changing culture and social structures. Instead it is something always there as a shadow in their thoughts as they are bombarded with celebrities divorcing and media statistics that sow doubt and fear but do make people think how can I save my marriage before it becomes too late as they know where the road of marital problems can lead for half of married couples.

Another problem you may face trying to save your marriage is the belief that you are the only one trying and that no matter what you do it is being sabotaged by your partner who does not put the effort in or seems to deliberately make things worse. The strain on your life, health, work and happiness because of this can be devastating making the task harder and harder and many people simply give up and go with the flow without thinking or trying anymore perhaps also thinking it is a foregone conclusion; this is not always the case as you can save your marriage!

When you look at the strongest happiest marriages what is it you see? Commitment, compatibility, stability? All these things and more may be true but none of them can exist in a vacuum because commitment can be a miserable thing is you are not compatible and compatibility without commitment leads to infidelity or a slide into a situation you feel like friends but not partner and lovers. It is my belief that all the good things in a marriage come from one concept and one word that can be greatly misunderstood: Love.

Now most people DO love their spouse but the commitment to love and making it grow day by day can be forgotten or taken for granted. This leads to the real issues of happiness, contentment and passion being obscured by petty issues that become a surrogate method of releasing frustration in a marriage. Not that all arguments are about petty things but with an attitude of being in love even the difficult situations can be overcome together and this then becomes an issue very closely tied to love which is communication.

When you ask ‘can I save my marriage’ what you really mean is can I communicate my love to my partner and solve the problems that inhibit a loving relationship. This is all about methods of communication which are skills that can be very difficult to develop but when put in place can provide amazing results in defusing hostility, getting the core of a problem and then solving it which then solves the surface issues as well.

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