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Should You Even Try to Win Your Ex Back?

In the first few days, even weeks, after your breakup, the only thing you can think about is how to get your ex back. It’s understandable. Depending on how long the two of you were together, you’ve shared a lot of life. It’s hard to just walk away and pretend it never happened.

The odds are good that your ex isn’t walking off unaffected either. The only real difference is that your ex has been thinking about this for a while. People don’t walk away from long-term-relationships on a whim. In other words, your ex has had a little more time to deal with the emotional side of the decision than you have.

If you’re struggling to decide if the right choice is to walk away or fight to get your ex back, these questions should help you decide.

Is the Love Still There?

This is a huge question you need to know the answer to before you make a single step to try and win your ex back. While you can only guess about how your ex really feels, you can, and should, explore your own feelings in depth before making your next move. If the love isn’t really there, you should not waste your time and energy, or that of your ex, trying to rekindle something that’s simply not there anymore.

Is the Relationship You Had Truly Worth Rehashing?

Most relationships have their shares of ups and downs. Successful relationships have far more ups in them than downs. Take a look back over the course of your entire relationship. How do the ups compare to the downs for you? Were the good times really good? How bad were the darkest days? Are you willing to experience them again if necessary?

How far are You Really Willing to Go to Make It Work? 

You must be willing to do whatever it takes to make it work in most cases for that to happen. Your ex is likely to throw in a few pitfalls and tests along the way, if he or she is even willing to give it a go. Be prepared for them and ready to ace them with flying colors. Don’t even think about letting her see you sweat. But the willingness goes even deeper than passing a few tests. You must be willing to make a few vital changes for the sake of your relationship. But you won’t often find out what they are until the moment arrives. Just be prepared. Some of the changes may not be all that simple to make.

Most importantly, however, is your willingness to be the one to wait. This is often the most difficult, and most necessary, part of winning back your ex. Waiting for the right moment, though, makes all the difference in the world. I can help you understand when that moment is and help you come up with the ideal strategy to turn it into a prime opportunity.

Do All Cheating Men Leave?

When your husband cheats, it does a real number on your self-esteem. Even worse, it undermines your faith in your husband and the love he has for you. That probably wasn’t his intention when he made the decision to cheat. It’s just another byproduct of the act. But, does his cheating mean he’s actually thinking about leaving? The good news is probably not. In fact, leaving has probably never even crossed his mind.

Here are a few of the reasons why leaving is rarely the end game when men cheat.

If he Wanted to Leave he Would Have Left Before he Cheated

Seriously, if that was his ultimate goal, he doesn’t need to go through the act of cheating and the emotional fallout that comes along as a result. Chances are he never thought he would get caught. Quite often he’s riddled with guilt in the aftermath and has no intention of cheating again. Sometimes it’s a relationship on the side though. Not one he wants instead of his relationship with you, but one that he enjoys in addition to the one he has with you.

It’s his way of having his cake and having another one on the side. The one on the side is nice for brief periods of time, but not one worth risking his family and life at home in order to have full time.

He’s Probably Not Thinking about You at All

Truthfully speaking, if he WAS thinking about you, he probably wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Thinking isn’t high on the priority list when cheating takes place. For men, it goes back to primitive man when populating the planet was the genetic directive. This was back in the day when men had many wives and mortality rates were high for women, infants, and children.

That doesn’t excuse his bad behavior. It’s just trying to give you a little bit of insight into what’s going on in his mind when the cheating takes place (not much of anything). The good news is that he isn’t trying to hurt you, break your heart, or leave you behind.

Despite what you’ve heard about cheating and working things out, it is a difficult thing for most marriages to recover from. Your reaction is just as important as him making a conscious and dedicated to decision to do whatever it takes to restore the broken trust in the relationship. Once you understand that it isn’t about you at all, you can begin to rebuild and redefine your marriage. Only then, can you move forward and hope to save your marriage in the long run — something both of you probably want to do.

How to Make Him Pay Attention to You Now

Getting his attention used to be easy. All you had to do was walk into the room – any room – and you had his undivided attention. Add a little wiggle to his walk, toss your hair over your shoulder, and crook your little finger and he’d come running fast. Lately, the only thing that gets that much love from him is the television remote. You’re starting to feel a little bit left out and worn down.

What if I told you that there is something you can do RIGHT NOW that will get his attention – in a good way?

You can!

It’s easier than you think and you don’t have to walk around the house wearing nothing more than six-inch stilettos to get it.

Flirt with Him

How long has it been since you flirted with your guy? First of all, it WILL get his attention. He’ll be more than a little surprise and quite a bit turned on.

Now the downside is that he may instantly become suspicious. If that’s the case, don’t let it get you down. After all, you haven’t done it in a while.

The problem with relationships, is that no matter how much we love each other, after a while we stop trying quite as hard. We become a little bit complacent. Bringing back the flirting lets him know that you’re willing to try a little harder.

He’ll probably like it a lot more than he’ll ever let on.

Take it a little beyond hair tosses and batted eyelashes though. Let him know how big, strong, and handsome you think he is (of course you’ll want to find ways to say it that don’t leave you sounding like Betty Boop — unless that’s the kind of thing your guy likes).

This is all about him. You want to remind him that he’s the only man for you. Flirting, sends the signal to him that you think he’s still worth trying for – no matter how long you’ve been together.

Touch Him!

Want to kick things up a notch? Touch him. Men express and experience love in a different way than women. It doesn’t have to be sexual touching, though that certainly doesn’t hurt your odds of getting his attention. But, he likes to be touched.

Rub his shoulders. Scratch his back. Hold his hands. Reach out and touch him and see what an instant response that gets from him.

We live in a day and time when attention is easily divided. Bringing a little bit of flirting and a whole lot of touching back into the relationship is the fastest way you have at your disposal to get his attention  – in a very good way.

Why Do Women Leave Marriages?

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why women leave

If you look at the statistics about divorce, they are often quite shocking. According to the Huffington Post, women are 2/3 more likely to ask for a divorce than men are. The real question though, is why are women more likely to walk away from a marriage than men are? The opinions on this vary greatly. However, these are a few of the most common reasons women ultimately ask for divorce.

Cheating Husbands

A man who is cheating on his wife, doesn’t necessarily want out of the marriage. If he can have his cake and eat it on the side, he’s not inclined to rock the boat. If the shoe is on the other foot, however, and the husband finds out his wife is cheating, the story is a little different, though many men don’t consider cheating to be quite the same betrayal the average woman does. Of course, not all marriages where the husband cheats end in divorce. It is, though, really difficult for women to move past, even if they initially try to work things out after the cheating occurs.

Money Matters

Money, in the Bible, is called the root of all evil. Whether or not you agree with that particular assessment, it is the number one cause of divorce and breakups worldwide. Women want security in their marriages. That includes financial security. It’s not always a matter of men not making enough money, but may very directly be related to how you spend and/or save money.

Needs Not Met at Home

This is the primary reason women cheat and one of the big contributing factors to a woman seeking divorce. It’s also more than a little unfair to the man because women are often not likely to tell you what those needs are so that you do have a chance to meet them. It’s difficult for women, who are generally more intuitive than men are. She thinks you should somehow know what those needs are and is upset, and often hurt, that you aren’t meeting them. The trick here is to find out what her needs are. Ask her if you must, and make sure you’re meeting them at every opportunity to do so.

Reality doesn’t Live up to Expectation

Men have a hard road job here. Before marriage, you work hard to woo your wife. You’re always doing little things in an effort to get her attention and make her your wife. Once she’s your wife, you often stop aiming to please in many ways. She’s grown to expect those things from you and you’ve stopped delivering. It’s the same level of disappointment you feel when she stops working so hard to stroke your ego. Real life often comes in and kicks all expectations of what married life will be like in the teeth.

Understanding why women leave can help you take the steps now to prevent your wife from asking for a divorce. Now is the time to take action so you can avoid the painful process of divorce and the risk of losing so much more than the woman you love.

Why Women Leave Marriages

 

Breaking Up Over Money

The number one cause of breakups and divorces around the world isn’t what most people think it is. It isn’t infidelity, in spite of the high number of people in relationships admitting to cheating. Instead, it is arguments over money. If spending is a problem in your relationship, then it’s time to make serious changes or risk losing the love that’s so important to you.

Do You Have Arguments over Your Spending?

There are plenty of things to argue about in relationships today. Most couples don’t need any help finding a few meaty bones of contention. However, arguments over money and the financial foundation of the relationship and/or family tend to be some of the weightiest arguments couples today can have. Before you head on over to Divorce Court or book your stay at Heartbreak Hotel, however, it’s a good idea to try a few simply strategies to keep your arguments over spending from becoming harbingers of doom for your relationship.

  1. Focus on a Solution to Your Spending Dilemma. Instead of feeling guilty, angry, or putout; seek solutions that leave you both feeling as though your voice is being heard and your needs are being met. The key is to come up with those solutions together.
  2. Create a Family Budget. Whether yours is a family of two or there are children involved in the relationship, there needs to be a budget that covers everyone as much as possible and leaves everyone with a little money to spend on whatever floats your boat. The secret to success is to keep the purchases small so they can continue and avoid purchases that will unseat the budget for necessities within the month.
  3. Keep Separate Accounts. It’s one thing to have a joint account for the monthly bills. However, both of you need private money to spend. The best way to do this is to have both of you contributing to the monthly bills and savings from your own accounts and then each of you having a little bit left over at the end of the bills to devote to your own pleasure.
  4. Get Help if Spending is Becoming too Big to Handle on Your Own. Some spending issues are simply symptoms of a bigger overall problem. It could be compulsive spending or even a shopping addiction that fills a very real emotional void. If spending is beginning to cause problems with other relationships in your life, then it’s time to get help so you can move on to a more normal life than you’ve experienced in the past.

Spending can be a real problem for relationships — especially if it’s ignored. The problem with spending becoming a problem is that it will never get fixed if it isn’t seen for the problem that it is and addressed as a problem and not a minor annoyance.

How Successful Are Online Relationships?

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You’ve probably heard of someone who met someone online, starting dating, and is now making wedding plans. Or perhaps your friend, relative, or loved one is already married to the person they met online. But, you’re skeptical. Just how serious can the relationship be? Surely there is an epic fail for more than half of the relationships that begin online.

Right?

Wrong!

At least that’s the news according to a recent poll of nearly 20,000 couples. The study, conducted by the National Academy of Science explored almost 20,000 couples who were married between the years of 2005 and 2012. The study discovered that roughly 35 percent of them met their mates on the Internet. Half of that 35 percent met specifically on Internet dating websites.

The surprising thing the research revealed was not how many couples meet online or even that the number is growing fast. What was really surprising is that the couples who met online generally enjoyed greater satisfaction in their marriages as well as a higher success rate. In fact, eight percent of marriages where the couples met offline ended in divorce while only six percent of the marriages initiated via the World Wide Web ended up in divorce court.

Are there any conclusions real world couples can draw from this knowledge? Do you have to go to the Internet in order to have a successful relationship or marriage? Absolutely not! But, there is a fair consensus as to why these relationships tend to be more successful, long-term, than many relationships initiated offline.

  1. Both parties are typically looking to settle down and have marriage on their minds once they start sifting through online dating profiles.
  2. Couples who meet on the Internet go through a more vigorous screening process than people who meet in a coffee shop, bookstore, or single’s bar.
  3. The pool of prospects is much larger than the average person encounters at the “usual” meeting locations.

Before you give up on traditional meet-ups altogether and hit the Internet for your shot at happily ever after, you should also note the people who met online in gaming environments where they were able to hide their natural personalities behind avatars or play a role, were almost equal in success to those who met in bars and other offline locations.

If you’re currently in a relationship, regardless of where the relationship began, it requires work, love, and a great deal of affection to keep it going and maintain the love. The meeting location has little to do with your commitment to your marriage or your willingness to work through the dry patches that come along. Only you can decide that.

How to Make Up Fast Before You Break Up

Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you’re interested in hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent the breakup in the first place. Preventative action can save you both the heartache of a breakup and the lengthy recovery and reconciliation process. More importantly, it can help prevent many damaging words and actions before they ever happen. But, how do you stop something that seems almost inevitable?

Communicate More Effectively

Guys and girls have this Mars and Venus issue when it comes to communication. John Gray, Pd.D. even wrote a book about it back during the early 1990’s.

Make Up Fast Before You Break Up

Make Up Fast Before You Break Up

The book was  on the bestseller lists for an unprecedented 121 weeks because the concept was so simple, and yet, so foreign. Sometimes, the best solutions really are the simplest.

The problem, according to this book, is that men and women communicate differently. What one person is saying (or intends to say) is not always what the other person in the relationship hears. This miscommunication often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship that only exists in the minds of the two people in the relationship. That’s why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the sake of your sanity and your relationship.

Discover Your Love Languages

Everyone has a love language that best sums up the way the express love and the way they best FEEL loved. The love languages include:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Physical  touch
  3. Quality time
  4. Gifts of service
  5. Receiving gifts

Taking the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison to how your partner best feels loved and expresses love for you can save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements, and knockdown, drag out, dish flinging arguments over the course of your relationship.

Learn to Speak Your Partner’s Love Language and Accept Love from Your Partner

You see, people don’t only have a little difficulty feeling loved by partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have a difficult time accepting love in that language. This leads to feelings of alienation, confusion, and inadequacy for partners and drives a wedge into the relationship.

Learning to accept the love your partner has to offer while also learning to show love in a manner that will make your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being able to make your partner feel the LOVE you have.

Love languages are great, but they do take time to work with and to become effective tools for saving your relationship from impending breakup. There are other options to consider if you need more immediate results.

I Miss My Ex Boyfriend

I Miss My Ex Boyfriend – How To Cope

will my ex boyfriend ever miss meAre you saying, “I miss my ex boyfriend” and wondering what you’re going to do? Losing a boyfriend is a painful thing, especially if you really love him. And unfortunately, “I miss my ex boyfriend” is a common cry these days.

You have to decide when the time comes to stop saying, “I miss my ex boyfriend!” and start saying, “I’m going to get my boyfriend back!” It’s hard enough to be missing him without having to worry about strategies to get him back, but they’re important.

These strategies will work even if there’s no chance of you getting back together. They’ll work by helping you feel better about yourself and your situation. It might not be easy to face the fact that you may not get back together, no matter what you do, and that’s normal.

While you’d probably rather hear about that surefire method of getting your boyfriend back, there is no such magic bullet. No one thing is going to miraculously work for every split up couple. If that were the case, then everyone would stay together, for the most part. Or when they did split up, no one would really be hurt by it.

So you can forget about guarantees and absolutes. Everything you try might not work at all. But at least you’ve tried everything you knew how to try, and that’s more than most people will ever do.

“I miss my ex boyfriend” is the battle cry of many women who’ve been involved with break ups .It happens to almost everyone at least once; and for some people, it’s happened more than once. They got through it and came out all right on the other side, and so will you. That’s important to remember.

It’s also important to remember that even though you do everything you know how to do to get your ex back, it may not work, but that doesn’t mean you’re a failure. The tendency is to blame yourself when this doesn’t work out. But for all you know, he has different reasons for wanting to break up and they aren’t things that can be fixed, in his opinion.

As frustrating as it is, his opinion is the one that matters most to him. If he believes it’s hopeless, it’ll be very hard for you to change his mind. You may end up just getting hurt worse if you try to.

But if he seems open to the idea that you want to get back together, then you probably have a much better chance of getting him again. In the long run, getting him back into the relationship after a breakup is the easy part. Keeping him interested for the long haul can be a whole different thing.

Carefully consider when you’re trying to get him back if it’s just that you don’t want to be alone, or that you want to be with him. You don’t want “I still miss my ex boyfriend” to turn into  “I want to break up with him.”

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Win Love Back

Win Love Back – Make Your Ex Love You Again

Have you recently experienced a breakup, and now you are hoping that you can win love back?

Getting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend to fall madly in love with you once again is an endeavor that can be quite difficult. However, if you want to win love back, and you have the dedication and the patience to achieve it, you may be able to make it happen.

The first thing you need to do in order to win love back is to figure out what went wrong in the relationship in the first place. What did you do, or what did your ex do, in order to make the relationship dissolve?

how to win back the love of a married womanYou need to be able to address the problems in the relationship in order to win love back.

If you cannot rectify the issues that led to the breakup, then you are not going to be able to win love back when it comes to your relationship.

If you want to win back his heart, then you are going to have to proceed slowly but surely. If you messed up and did something wrong and that led to the dissolving of your relationship, then what you need to do is apologize, and work to regain the trust of your ex.

Are you certain that you want to win love back in the first place? Do you want your ex back or are you simply afraid to be alone? What is going to keep you from messing things up again? Are you dedicated to repairing the relationship once and for all, or might you slip up again?

If you are sure that you want to rekindle things, and you are sure that your goal is to win love back, then you need to let him know by apologizing for the problems in the past, communicating better with him than ever before, and giving him the space that he needs to figure out what he wants to do in the relationship. If you do not give him any space, the results of the relationship will not be to your liking.

Find out what it is that caused the relationship to fall apart, and fix it. If he was bored with you, find a way to liven things up. If you cheated on him, find a way to prove that you’ve stopped. Once you can undo the underlying causes of the break up, you and your ex can start learning to rebuild things in a healthy and proactive way and this will allow you to win love back once and for all.

Learning how to win love back is all about knowing what went wrong the first time around so that you can prevent it from happening again. It may take some serious time and effort, but the investment is well worthwhile when you consider the positive results that are possible in situations like these.

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How to Survive an Affair

How To Survive An Affair – Relationships That Last

After an affair, relationships can be hard to mend. The most essential part of any relationship is trust, and if you’ve cheated this bond is broken. The good news is that it is possible for a relationship to come back from cheating. The bad news is that you are going to have to work for it.

The first thing you need to do is swear off affair relationships. This is not a guide on how to cheat on your partner. If you’re going to continue to cheat, then these guidelines will not be of much help to you. If you’re willing to do the work, then these tips will help you repair your relationship.

can marriages survive an affairThe first thing you to need to do is admit your affair. Relationships are built on trust, and you can’t have trust when you’re lying to the other person. Not telling them is lying, a lie of omission. You need to tell them if they don’t know, even though it is going to hurt.

Aside from general honesty, which is always a virtue, there is a practical side to this as well. If they don’t know, they will find out, and it’s better that you take the bullet now rather than add to the pain when they do find out. If you try to keep it a secret, you’re going to torpedo the relationship.

The next thing you need to do is to take the blame. You may feel that your partner did something to drive you to cheat. We also all have natural tendency to rationalize our behavior, to explain ourselves by coming up with an excuse. But the reality is that it is you that cheated, you that the affair. Relationships aren’t built by blaming your partner for your mistakes. Take the blame and move on.

Then you need to apologize. What you’re looking for here is a complete admission and a sincere apology. You need to make sure that they know that you are truly repentant and regret what you did. Don’t try to explain, just let them know how you feel.

Once you’ve done that, you need to give them some space. They are going to react, they are going to be hurt, and you can’t push them into forgiving you any faster than they are going to already. Be there for them, but make sure that you don’t push. They will be ready when they are ready, and if you try to push the issue then you are only going to succeed in pushing them further away.

After an affair, relationships are going to be different. The best thing you can do is to look at it as if you are starting the relationship all over again. You’re going to need to win back their trust, and this is a process that is going to take some time.

Fortunately, there are resources available to you to help you repair the relationship. It may be hard to admit to yourself that you need help, but using one of the systems can be the best relationship move you’ll ever make.

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Do I Want My Wife Back

Do I Want My Wife Back –  Question Can You Get Her

“Do I want my wife back?” you may ask. Many people have a blanket answer for such questions—no. But they’re not always right, and they can’t know your specific information. They might have been hurt before and think it’s just best to move on after a breakup. If you ask them, “Do I want my wife back?” they’ll tell you what’s over is over and that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

But you can’t let people who have had setbacks and disappointment in love affect your determination. They’re bound to have a negative attitude. And it’s important that you have a positive attitude right now. If you answer “Do I want my wife back?” with a strong yes, then you’re really going to have to keep a good attitude.

Once you break up, it’s hard to get back together. If you’re still together and you realize things are going bad, it’s much easier to intervene then and save a relationship than if you want until the split has already occurred. That’s not to say that it’s hopeless after you break up, though.

But your attitude will have a lot to do with what happens. No matter how resistant she is to the idea of getting back together, you have to be calm and polite. You have to decide that you are getting back together and make sure that you always act as if that’s a given.

The hard part comes in when you don’t get back together any time soon and you have to keep on believing even though it looks less and less likely that you’ll get your wife back. But you have to if you want to give the relationship that one last chance.

Not every marriage can be saved. Thinking, “Do I want my wife back?” and deciding that you do aren’t enough to safe a marriage. That’s only the very beginning. And it gets harder and harder as you go.

You have to face the fact that there’s a chance your wife won’t ever come back. That’s a hard truth to face, but it’s necessary. You have to decide that you won’t let yourelf become completely devastated if the marriage does not word k out.

There are other people out there, if this relationship doesn’t work out. It’s hard to think that way at first when you’re trying to stay so positive and focused on fixing the relationship. But you have to make yourself understand this.

If your wife doesn’t come back, you will not be alone for the rest of your life. You will be able to love someone else, and let them love you. Realizing this truth can be very liberating, because you come to know that no matter what happens, you’re not going to be alone. Your needs will be met, they’ll just be met by someone else.

“Do I want my wife back?” If you still answer yes and you’re ready to be positive, you may just end up surprised at how well it works.

After Marriage – Stay Married

What To Do After Marriage To Avoid Ruining Your Relationship

After marriage, many relationships begin to stumble and fall. This doesn’t seem like the way it should go. Marriage is supposed to be a great and glorious thing, and much of the time it’s exactly that, but the period after marriage can also be a dangerous one for many people.

The problem is that before marriage, the relationship was always building towards something. In the early days, you looked forward to the next date. Then you were looking forward to all the little events that make up the beginnings of a relationship. Meeting the parents, meeting the friends, all those little first that make up a life.

After all that, you start looking forward to the big events. You move in together, and that’s a big thing. Then you start looking forward to the wedding, to the rest of your life. Then you get married. After marriage, things change.

should i stay marriedAfter marriage, you start to wonder if this is all there. Most of the little events that you look forward to have happened and all you’re left with is the rest of your life. While finding the right someone to spend your life with is one of the best parts of life, you have to wary of the ennui that comes after.

This is a period that can leave you or your new spouse failing, looking for something to give your life direction. This can lead to people doing stupid things as the new wedding glow wears off, cheating or starting fights.

Because of this, the after marriage period is not a time when you should sit by and just hope that everything will work out for the best. A marriage might last a lifetime for the lucky, but it won’t get there without the two of you being in synch and working towards building something that last.

What you need to weather the after marriage doldrums is communication. You and your spouse need to make sure that the relationship is growing the way you want it to and that you both have the same expectations.

We often don’t tell our spouses about the fears and uncertainty we have because we’re afraid that it will hurt them or just afraid that if we say it, it will really be true. But you need to tell them and talk about things because if you don’t, the problems will grow and fester.

Instead of allowing that to happen, get into the habit of total honesty as early as you can. The earlier you start, the easier it’s going to be when and if problems do arrive. This means you both need to be able to work with hurt feelings, to get around and over them to get to the good times.

After marriage, you have the rest of your life. You owe it to yourself and your spouse to try as hard as you can to make it a life worth living. You may need more help than this article can give you, and that’s fine. There are plenty of resources available to help you build a better, stronger marriage.

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Stop Your Divorce and Save Your Marriage

4 Steps To Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage

The thing you need to know is that it is not too late to stop your divorce. The break up of marriage is one of the worst things that can happen to a person, and it is all too common. More than half of all marriages today will end in divorce. When you consider that divorce is commonly regarded as one of the most stressful events that can happen in a person’s life, even beyond the death of a dead one, this is a lot of heartache out there in the world.

The tragedy is that most of these breakups could have been prevented. You do not have to be a statistic. You can do something about it; you can stop your divorce. I won’t say that it is going to be easy, but it is possible. You just have to follow the steps to rebuild what has been broken.

You can’t expect to stop your divorce without a plan anymore than you can expect to build a house without blueprints. Fortunately, the help is available and it behooves you to take advantage of it. Your marriage does not have to fail. You can do something.

how to stop a divorceStep One: Find the Problem

You can’t stop your divorce if you don’t know why your marriage is falling apart. You need to work with your spouse to diagnose what is wrong with the marriage. This is a little harder than it sounds, because what you think might be the reason for the divorce is just a symptom.

Step Two: Fix the Problem

In many ways, this is the most important step. If you can’t fix the problem, then you can’t stop your divorce. Some problems can’t be fixed, but most can. The reason most marriage ending problems don’t get solved is that they are never identified. But you’ve already done that in step one. What you need to do know is work with your spouse to make the compromises that will save your marriage.

Step Three: Remember the Good Times

You’re going to need to remind both your spouse and yourself why you were together to begin with. No matter how bad your marriage has gotten, there was a point when things were good. You should try to get back to that place, but you should always keep in mind that it existed.

Step Four: Start Over

The last step in your quest to stop your divorce is to begin again. You need to look at your marriage as a brand new marriage. While you should keep in mind the good times, you need to forget the bad times and learn about your spouse all over again. Things have changed, and you need to make your marriage work with the person you are married to, not the person you used to be married to or the person you wish they were. Accept them as they are, and work together to build a better, stronger marriage.

If you follow these four steps, you will be able to stop your divorce. If you need more help, then don’t be afraid to look for it. There are systems out there to help fix what is broken in your relationship, and you need to be willing to use them.

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Relationship Breakups

Relationship Breakups – What You Need To Know

Relationship breakups are a terrible thing, and are devastating for most people. What most people want, more than anything else, is to find someone to spend their lives with, someone who will always be there for you. Thinking you have this and then losing it is one of the worst events most people will suffer in their life.

After relationship breakups, people tend to suffer from the same kind of emotional healing process that people who have suffered the death of a loved one. This isn’t surprising, since the death of a relationship is very much like the death of someone. But unlike the death of a person, sometimes something can be done to take back the death of a relationship.

Relationship breakups do not have to be forever in many cases. Far more relationships can be saved than those that are permanently destroyed. What you have to know and understand is the various kinds of relationship breakups that exists and what you can do about them.

This article is going to give you a brief look into the kinds of relationship breakups and what strategies you’ll need to undertake to fix them. Not all relationships can be repaired, and not all of them should be, but most of them can. You just need to know the right techniques for each kind of breakup.

dealing with relationship breakupsThe Abusive Relationship Breakups

This is a breakup that should stay a break up. Unlike the other relationship breakups, this one can and should stick. There’s a chance that you may be considering returning to someone who physically or mentally abused you, but you need to stick with this kind of breakup. No one should take being abused.

The Mutual Breakup

Sometimes, both people in the relationship may want out and the relationship ends by mutual consent. Now, if this is truly a mutual breakup, there’s a good chance that this is another relationship that shouldn’t be repaired. On the other hand, if it was just called a relationship and was really one of the next two kinds of relationship breakups, that’s a different matter entirely.

They Broke Up with You

This is usually the most hurtful kind of break up. If this has happened to you, what you need to do first is figure out exactly why the relationship ended. Once you know this, you have to decide if what went wrong is something you could or should fix. If it is something you can and should fix, then this needs to be your starting point.

You Broke Up with Them

Sometimes, we break up with people and then realize we’ve thrown away something good. When this happens, the first thing you need to do is reestablish trust. This means that you’re going to essentially start the relationship over. Start slow, with coffee dates or something similar, and then work your way slowly towards repairing the relationship.

No matter which of the relationship breakups you’ve experienced, you need to be aware that help is out there. You just need to find the right kind of advice and instruction to allow you to mend feeling and repair your relationship with your ex.

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Emotional Infidelity

Emotional Infidelity – What It Is And How To Recognize It

Emotional infidelity is almost always the first step on the road to cheating, and may well be considered cheating its own right. There is far more to a relationship than just have a physical relationship with only one person and one person only. The truly satisfying and meaningful part of a relationship is the bond you share with the other person.

The emotional connection is a deep and integral part of a relationship, which is what makes emotional infidelity so devastating. The true bond in a relationship goes far beyond just physical fidelity; it’s a large part of what makes a relationship a relationship. A relationship is about sharing your thoughts, feeling and soul with another.

Emotional infidelity is when your significant other begins to form those same kinds of bonds with another person. This almost always goes along with withdrawing from the original relationship.

You go from being your significant other’s friend and confidant to being a stranger in your own relationship. This freezing out can be difficult to deal with, and may be hard to see. You may feel that the problem is on your end and that you are the one doing something wrong.

emotional infidelity womenAt the same time, emotional infidelity involves the other person forming bonds with another person outside the marriage. One of the terrible things about emotional infidelity is that it can be difficult to define and identify. Because there is nothing as obvious as sleeping with another person going on, saying for certain that it is going on is trickier to prove.

One big sign is a sexual chemistry between the two people, flirting and teasing each other. It may seem innocent because there is nothing physical going on, but emotional infidelity will cause the person to behave differently.

This is a key point that you need to keep in mind when you suspect emotional infidelity. Everybody has friends; men have their best buddies, women have their girlfriends. Many people have close friends of the opposite sex, people with whom they confide much of their lives.

This isn’t emotional infidelity, and the big thing to look for is signs of guilt. The big sign that someone is becoming involved with someone else on an emotional level is the fact that your significant other feels compelled to hide it. No one hides their relationships with just friends from their significant others. When they’re hiding something, it means there is something to hide.

Emotional infidelity is a problem in and of itself, but it tends to be one of the early signs of a relationship going bad. The next step is usually physical infidelity, and this is almost always preceded by emotional infidelity. If you can recognize and do something about emotional infidelity, you may have an easier time than if you catch it at a later stage.

The two big signs are emotional disengagement and secretive behavior. If your significant other is pulling away from you, becoming distance or hostile, this is a big sign. Likewise, if they are acting suspiciously, hiding phone calls and emails, avoiding questions and just generally acting like they have a secret, this is a sign.

You need to catch emotional infidelity in its early stages an fix it. This can be tough to do, but if you suspect emotional infidelity in your relationship, then you need to seek out and advice and instruction on how to fix your relationship

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