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Why Did My Girlfriend Cheat on Me?

why did my girlfriend cheat on me?

why did my girlfriend cheat on me?

The numbers on cheating are quite alarming if you look at modern statistics. The most alarming fact of all, for many men, is that the number of women who cheat almost equals the number of men who cheat. This is the first time that’s happened in the history of humanity. The thing to remember is that the reasons women cheat are often very different from the reasons men cheat. These are a few of the most commonly stated reasons women cheat on their men.

She Needs Something Her Husband/Boyfriend Isn’t Giving Her

We all have needs. It’s human nature. Successful relationships are all about both parties having their needs met. This requires a major level of effective communication about your individual needs, what they are, and how those needs are best met. And that’s a challenge for many couples. A big one.

The other challenge is that she doesn’t always know what that need is until someone comes along and leaves her completely gobsmacked by meeting it. It’s hard to compete with that. However, that doesn’t excuse her cheating either. It just makes her vulnerable to the person who is meeting this need she’s had that’s left her unfulfilled for so long.

He Pays Attention

Women who cheat often feel lonely despite being married. You may not be the greatest conversationalist, but when you stop paying attention to your wife and what she has to say, it leaves her feeling lonely, alone, and isolated.

It makes her the perfect fodder for a man interested in a “string free” relationship with a married women or for a man who really has his eye on the prize your wife really is. All he has to do to make her putty in his hands is pay attention to her, listen to what she has to say, and respond in a positive manner.

She Feels Like She’s Being Taken for Granted at Home

Many women feel unappreciated at home. She feels like her efforts aren’t noticed or appreciated by her family and her husband. She feels like it’s always taken for granted that she’ll be there and that no one really cares that she is.

Then a stranger comes along and shows appreciation, makes her feel like the center of the universe, and really notices the little things. She’s no longer feeling taken for granted. In fact, she’s feeling a wide range of emotions she hasn’t felt in a long time, the most important of which is excitement.

Women are less likely to cheat simply because the opportunity presents itself. More often than not, it isn’t a spur of the moment decisions and it isn’t often casual. That’s why women’s affairs are often more devastating to the state of the marriage than a man’s affair. Actively work to prevent this from happening by paying attention to your wife, noticing the details, showing your appreciation, and dedicating yourself to discovering and meeting her most important needs. You’ll be amazed what a difference these steps make in your marriage and your relationship.

How to Save Your Relationship After Adultery

After adultery a relationship is the weakest it’s ever likely to be, but this can be a good thing. This sounds like it is hard to believe, but the truth is that the time after adultery is also the time that can make or break a relationship, which can be a huge opportunity.

Nobody likes to be cheated on. Nobody should be cheated on. But cheating isn’t the problem, it’s the symptom. There is always a bigger problem underlying the infidelity and if there’s anything good to come after adultery, it’s knowing that there is a problem that you need to address.

The time when a relationship is at its weakest is also the best time to do the work that will bring it to being its strongest. There’s an idea in the military that you need to tear a person down so that you can build them back up, strong than they ever were before, and this is true in relationships as well.

After adultery what your relationships needs is a complete overhaul. This isn’t optional, because if you try to just go back to the way things were, then what you’ll find is that history will just repeat itself. You need to start over and build things back up from the bottom. Tear it down to bring it back stronger than it was before.
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The first thing you need to do is spend some time apart. This may seem counter intuitive since you’re dealing with an after adultery situation, when the urge might be to not let your partner out of your sight for a single second. But the time apart will allow you to see your relationship from a different angle, and this perspective will be important for the relationship repair process.

The next thing you need to do is to figure out exactly what the problem was, and the answer to this question is not ‘they were sleeping with someone else’. You need to find the deep down problem that was behind the infidelity, and you need to do something about the problem.

After you’ve done those two things, it’s time for you to start the relationship over. The key part is to do it from the beginning. Go on dates again. Start over just as if you were dating somebody else. You need to treat this as a new relationship because if you want to repair your relationship after adultery, then it has to be a new relationship.

Although you’re being building a new relationship after adultery, you do need to keep in mind the problems that made all this necessary. The idea here isn’t to have the same relationship you had before, the idea is to have a better one, and this means you need to avoid making the same mistakes.

Rebuilding a relationship after adultery will be hard, but it will also be one of the most worthwhile things you can. Remember, there is help available out there, and seeking it out one of the best things you can do for your relationship.

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